life is honestly too short to be embarrassed over anything that sparks even a little happiness in you

life is honestly too short to be embarrassed over anything that sparks even a little happiness in you
whenever i look into cultural/historical third genders my first question is always “okay but where are the people who were assigned female” and my second is “if they aren’t being named, why is that?”
on this note: how much transmasculine history is hidden within stories of “warrior women” that no one bothers to consider from a transmasculine perspective
in honor of this terf bullshit:
i’m adding my tags from this rb:
#thinking specifically about the Agojie who reportedly would say they had become men thru becoming warriors#& to be clear I’m not saying they are 1:1 w western transmascs#but it’s telling to me that transmasculinity never comes up At All#people hear “warrior women” and only ever talk about cis women#idk why can’t we entertain the idea that women who actively considered themselves to have become men#or been men in some way#mayve viewed their gender in a more complex way than just women?#you’ll sometimes hear people bring up lesbians but never trans men. hmmm#it’s almost like people view transmasculinity as a corrupting force which is existentially opposed to cis womanhood#it’s just sooo fucking annoying seeing people never think at all abt the idea that if there is a role#where people assigned female can culturally masculinize themselves#maybe just maybe some of those women would not have identified with entirely “cis” womanhood?#like there had to be some people out there for whom the idea of becoming a man thru war was the point#I just wish people didn’t act like you can either have Feminist Women in History or trans men but the two can’t exist at once#like if any historical badass women were actually transmasc it’s a Threat To Feminism#bc trans mens existence is only relevant in how cis women are affected by us
I am not saying all these people were trans men. I’m using “transmasculine” as a descriptor to group in things with a shared element (people assigned female socially/spiritually/physically masculinizing themselves in a way that changes their identity/place in culture) to relate it to trans activism.
my point is that cis is just as much a construct as trans is and we have a tendency to assume that every culture shares a cis-binary framework. gender is a construct and not every culture constructs it the same. when we see people assigned female in history, who culturally masculinize themselves, who do so to the extent they say they have become men, why do we reflexively assume that experiences is comparable to the way a cis woman in the US military or athlete understands her gender?
Oftentimes the most common ways we learn about “warrior women” is through cissexist and white-western storytelling. Nuanced cultural feelings about one’s place in one’s unique gender system are rarely not carried over. You know transmasculinity isn’t gonna get brought up as even a consideration in most spaces. And also, I used the term “transmasculine” because women can be transmasculine. And I think with some “warrior women”, even if they saw themselves as women on any level, it makes sense to connect that womanhood with transness. And also some of them likely would not identify themselves as “women”, cis or not, in our binary language if they could.
And to be clear we do need so much nuance here wrt applying our labels, even categorically. Hapshetsut is a good example- yes, they portrayed themself as a man in art. but we also need to understand how ancient egyptians understood art as not a literal representation of the world around us and the ways that, within that society, a queen depicting herself as a man would not be understood in the same way we understand social transitioning of a trans man. i talked about the agojie not because they were just “women warriors” but because i literally read a quote where they explained their identity as “becoming men” and like. its deeply ethnocentric, imo, to assume that “becoming a man” has to mean the kind of physical transition we imagine. and especially since transmasculinity is reflexively erased in everything and even people who went to extreme lengths to be seen as a man and never a woman and out loud with their mouths said they identified as men are written as “women seeking safety/privilege.” we should question why our understanding of gender & its connection to a certain bodytype is the default
detective pikachu came out four years ago why did no one (except sonic after ugly sonic) take notes
this works
this also works
this does NOT
DO YOU KNOW WHAT I JUST REALIZED
YOU KNOW THE HAIKU BOT???
OFC YOU DO
YOU KNOW THAT MESSAGE HE PUTS AT THE END OF EVERY POST????
“Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.”
YEAH???????
WELL THATS A HAIKU TOO
Beep boop! I look for
accidental haiku posts.
Sometimes I mess up.
NOW YOU LOOK ME IN THE EYE AND TELL ME THATS NOT THE CUTEST THNIG YOUVE EVER HEARD
“Beep boop! I look for
accidental haiku posts.
Sometimes I mess up.”
Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

Oh these are lovely! Posts about hilariously bad punctuation become depressing after a while. How joyful to celebrate the witty and masterful!
things that kick ass
- when a character
sorry i was going thru my drafts and i found this and i have no idea what i meant to write
Stuck in a timeloop but I’m so afraid of being owned by someone’s epic prank I just keep acting like I haven’t noticed
“I really like going to work today and doing my job. My work today was so enjoyable I wouldn’t even be rustled if I had to do it again tomorrow hypothetically.”
“That bus exploding was really shocking and new to me. I didn’t intervene due to the fact that I was just so surprised about it, and not because I’m butthurt over past attempts to save it which have taught me about the unerring yolk which so stubbornly ties fate to its chosen tragedy.”
“I’m literally not even reeeing about this traffic jam caused by the bus explosion. I like it here. If I finally get home 2.5 hours late tonight to find my wife crying alone over a cold dinner while she tells me she’s been having an affair with the dentist, I wouldn’t even mald. It’s literally my favorite dinner she’s making so I wouldn’t care if I were to experience this between 1 and an indefinite number of times.”
frog discord server
might rain tonight
awesome
just saw a fly
i love flys
just hopped
ok
just peed on someones hand
ok
For being a shadow and two dandelions, that is a surprisingly unnerving image.
via reddit.com
we could’ve just chisled in the fuckin date on it it’s not some stone age creation
yhea because the squid people that inherit the earth will know when Christ was born
They 👏 Will 👏 Be 👏 Catholic
Based on a 1970’s guide published by a Feminsit Lesbian Newsletter from Atlanta which is MY NEW FAVOURITE thing on the internet
one of the things that i think we should pay attention to, socially, about the disney v. desantis thing is that it is really highlighting the importance of remembering nuance.
in a purely neutral sense, if you engage in something problematic, that does not mean you are necessarily agreeing with what makes it problematic. and i am worried that we have become… so afraid of any form of nuance.
disney isn’t my friend, they’re a corporate monopoly that bastardized copyright laws for their own benefit, ruin the environment, and abuse their workers (… and many other things). this isn’t a hypothetical for me - i grew up in florida. i also worked for the actual Walt Disney World; like, in the parks. i am keenly aware of the ways they hurt people, because they hurt me. i fully believe that part of the reason florida is so conservative is because it’s been an “open secret” for years now that disney lobbies the government to keep minimum wage down, and i know they worked hard to keep the parks unmasked and open during the worst parts of Covid. they purposefully keep their employees in poverty. they are in part responsible for the way the floridian government works.
desantis is still, by a margin that is frankly daunting, way worse. the alternative here isn’t just “republicans win”, it’s actual fascism.
in a case like this, where the alternative is to allow actual fascism into united states legislation - where, if desantis wins, there are huge and legal ramifications - it’s tempting to minimize the harm disney is also doing, because… well, it’s not fascism. but disney isn’t the good guy, either, which means republicans are having a field day asking activists oh, so you think their treatment of their employees is okay?
we have been trained there is a right answer. you’re right! you’re in the good group, and you’re winning at having an opinion.
except i have the Internet Prophecy that in 2-3 months, even left-wing people will be ripping apart activists for having “taken disney’s side”. aren’t i an anti-capitalist? aren’t i pro-union? aren’t i one of the good ones? removed from context and nuance (that in this particular situation i am forced to side with disney, until an other option reveals itself), my act of being like “i hope they have goofy rip his throat out onstage, shaking his lifeless body like a dog toy” - how quickly does that seem like i actually do support disney?
and what about you! at home, reading this. are you experiencing the Thought Crime of… actually liking some of the things disney has made? your memories of days at the parks, or of good movies, or of your favorite show growing up. maybe you are also evil, if you ever enjoyed anything, ever, at all.
to some degree, the binary idealization/vilification of individual motive and meaning already exists in the desantis case. i have seen people saying not to go to the disney pride events because they’re cash grabs (they are). i’ve seen people saying you have to go because they’re a way to protest. there isn’t a lot of internet understanding of nuance. instead it’s just “good show of support” or “evil bootlicking.”
this binary understanding is how you can become radicalized. when we fear nuance and disorder, we’re allowing ourselves the safety of assuming that the world must exist in binary - good or bad, problematic or “not” problematic. and unfortunately, bigots want you to see the world in this binary ideal. they want you to get mad at me because “disney is taking a risk for our community but you won’t sing their praises” and they want me to get mad at you for not respecting the legit personal trauma that disney forced me through.
in a grander scheme outside of disney: what happens is a horrific splintering within activist groups. we bicker with each other about minimal-harm minimal-impact ideologies, like which depiction of bisexuality is the most-true. we gratuitously analyze the personal lives of activists for any sign they might be “problematic”. we get spooked because someone was in a dog collar at pride. we wring our hands about setting an empty shopping mall on fire. we tell each other what words we may identify ourselves by. we get fuckin steven universe disk horse when in reality it is a waste of our collective time.
the bigots want you to spend all your time focusing on how pristine and pretty you and your interests are. they want us at each other’s throats instead of hand in hand. they want to say see? nothing is ever fucking good enough for these people.
and they want their followers to think in binary as well - a binary that’s much easier to follow. see, in our spaces, we attack each other over “proper” behavior. but in bigoted groups? they attack outwards. they have someone they hate, and it is us. they hate you, specifically, and you are why they have problems - not the other people in their group. and that’s a part of how they fucking keep winning.
some of the things that are beloved to you have a backbone in something terrible. the music industry is a wasteland. the publishing industry is a bastion of white supremacy. video games run off of unpaid labor and abuse.
the point of activism was always to bring to light that abuse and try to stop it from happening, not to condemn those who engage in the content that comes from those industries. “there is no ethical consumption under late capitalism” also applies to media. your childhood (and maybe current!) love of the little mermaid isn’t something you should now flinch from, worried you’ll be a “disney adult”. wanting the music industry to change for the better does not require that you reject all popular music until that change occurs. you can acknowledge the harm something might cause - and celebrate the love that it has brought into your life.
we must detach an acknowledgment of nuance from a sense of shame and disgust. we must. punishing individual people for their harmless passions is not doing good work. encouraging more thoughtful, empathetic consumption does not mean people should feel ashamed of their basic human capacities and desires. it should never have even been about the individual when the corporation is so obviously the actual evil. this sense that we must live in shame and dread of our personal nuances - it just makes people bitter and hopeless. do you have any idea how scared i am to post this? to just acknowledge the idea of nuance? that i might like something nuanced, and engage in it joyfully? and, at the same time, that i’m brutally aware of the harm that they’re doing?
“so what do i do?” … well, often there isn’t a right answer. i mean in this case, i hope mickey chops off ron’s head and then does a little giggle. but truth be told, often our opinions on nuanced subjects will differ. you might be able to engage in things that i can’t because the nuance doesn’t sit right with me. i might think taylor swift is a great performer and a lot of fun, and you might be like “raquel, the jet fuel emissions”. we are both correct; neither of us have any actual sway in this. and i think it’s important to remember that - the actual scope of individual responsibility. like, i also love going to the parks. Thunder Mountain is so fun. you (just a person) are not responsible for the harm that Disney (the billion dollar corporation) caused me. i don’t know. i think it’s possible to both enjoy your memories and interrogate the current state of their employment policies.
there is no right way to interrogate or engage with nuance - i just hope you embrace it readily.
The Internet just absolutely wouldn’t be functional without the furries. As they upkeep and improve the internet, more are converted to their fold.
what, if any, of your joints/bones pop or crack (other than your back)
fingers/toes
wrists/ankles
neck
knees
hips
elbows
collarbones
sternum
multiple (say in tags!)
are you guys ok???
i’ve experienced popping and cracking in all of the above so i wanna know how normal this is
When I think about American attitudes to parenting there’s something that always comes to mind, but I don’t know whether it’s a real thing. All my life in American films and TV I’ve heard child characters addressing their dads as “sir” or being told off for not doing so.
Is that really a commonplace thing in American families, or is it just a shorthand way of showing that the character is a shitty dad?
There’s still time to increase the sample size!